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And then there’s good ol’ America
This actually makes me so angry. The truth is right here and people see it and brush it aside. We really could make things better. But no, America apparently wants to suck forever.
You know, America, if we spent some money investing in education instead of making sure the ultra-rich were even more ultra-rich, we could *actually* be the exceptional nation that we pretend to be.
"My body, my choice" only makes sense when someone else’s life isn’t at stake.
Fun fact: If my younger sister was in a car accident and desperately needed a blood transfusion to live, and I was the only person on Earth who could donate blood to save her, and even though donating blood is a relatively easy, safe, and quick procedure no one can force me to give blood. Yes, even to save the life of a fully grown person, it would be ILLEGAL to FORCE me to donate blood if I didn’t want to.
See, we have this concept called “bodily autonomy.” It’s this….cultural notion that a person’s control over their own body is above all important and must not be infringed upon.
Like, we can’t even take LIFE SAVING organs from CORPSES unless the person whose corpse it is gave consent before their death. Even corpses get bodily autonomy.
To tell people that they MUST sacrifice their bodily autonomy for 9 months against their will in an incredibly expensive, invasive, difficult process to save what YOU view as another human life (a debatable claim in the early stages of pregnancy when the VAST majority of abortions are performed) is desperately unethical. You can’t even ask people to sacrifice bodily autonomy to give up organs they aren’t using anymore after they have died.
You’re asking people who can become pregnant to accept less bodily autonomy than we grant to dead bodies.
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But, assuming the mother wasn’t raped, the choice to HAVE a baby and risk sacrificing their “bodily autonomy” is a choice that the mother made. YOu don’t have to have sex with someone. Cases of rape aside, it isn’t ethical to say abortion is justified. The unborn baby has rights, too.
First point: Bodily autonomy can be preserved, even if another life is dependent on it. See again the example about the blood donation.
And here’s another point: When you say that “rape is the exception” you betray something FUNDAMENTALLY BROKEN about your own argument.
Because a fetus produced from sexual assault is biologically NO DIFFERENT than a fetus produced from consensual sex. No difference at all.
If one is alive, so is the other. If one is a person, so is the other. If one has a soul, then so does the other. If one is a little blessing that happened for a reason and must be protected, then so is the other.
When you say that “Rape is the exception” what you betray is this: It isn’t about a life. This isn’t about the little soul sitting inside some person’s womb, because if it was you wouldn’t care about HOW it got there, only that it is a little life that needs protecting.
When you say “rape is the exception” what you say is this: You are treating pregnancy as a punishment. You are PUNISHING people who have had CONSENSUAL SEX but don’t want to go through a pregnancy. People who DARED to have consensual sex without the goal of procreation in mind, and this is their “consequence.”
And that is gross.
What you’re missing is that pregnancy, while not being a punishment, is a direct result of unprotected sex. For some women, this may be an unwanted result. This does not make it a punishment.
There are a lot of methods of contraception these days; condoms; the pill; implants. These can be used in conjunction with consequential sex to prevent a pregnancy, but when they are not used the woman runs the risk of becoming pregnant. Whether she wants to keep the baby or not, she and her sexual partner have made the choice not to use a method of contraception, and the result of this decision is pregnancy.
What tumblr user generalmaluga means when they separate rape from other cases is this. Usually, in the case of rape, a woman had no choice whether she can use contraception. She had no choice in having sex. She has not made any decisions, as they have all been made for her.
In my own opinion, it is wrong to force a woman who has made none of these decisions to keep a child. However, I think that if a woman has had consentual sex with a partner and also decided against the use of contraception, then she has made the choice to have a child.
Pregnancy is not a punishment for these choices, but a result of them; in which the concerned woman was in full knowledge of when she made these choices. Once someone has made a choice, I think it is selfish to change their mind at the cost of a life which is not their own.
Pregnancy may be a result for some people (Remember, not everyone who gets pregnant identifies as a woman) who have sex who do or don’t use contraception correctly. (No contraception method is 100% perfect, not everyone has easy and affordable access to contraception, and contraceptive sabotage is a common form of spousal abuse)
But just because something is the result of your actions doesn’t mean you just have to bunker down and deal with it. Getting your chest cavity crushed may be the DIRECT RESULT of you getting into a car while drunk, but we still give those people medical services to help them. Breaking your leg may be a DIRECT RESULT of getting onto a dirt bike and riding down a mountain, but we don’t tell people who roll into the hospital after their dirt bike crash to deal with it because it’s the result of choices they made.
Hell, getting an STI is the direct result of having sex, and often having sex without the proper protection. But guess what? You still get medicine to shut that shit down when possible, because “you made a choice” doesn’t invalidate “you are in need of medical help now.”
We do not violate people’s bodily autonomy because they made choices and those choices had results.
Why Dove’s “Real Beauty Sketches” Video Makes Me Uncomfortable… and Kind of Makes Me Angry
So this video started going around my facebook today, with about a dozen of my female friends sharing the link with comments like, and “Everyone needs to see this”, and “All girls should watch this,” and “This made me cry.” And I’m not trying to shame those girls! I definitely understand why they would do so. And I don’t want to be a killjoy. But as I clicked the link and started watching the video, I started to feel a slight sense of discomfort. I couldn’t put my finger on why that was, exactly, but it continued throughout the whole thing. After watching the video several more times, I have some thoughts…
“What they don’t understand about birthdays and what they never tell you is that when you’re eleven, you’re also ten, and nine, and eight, and seven, and six, and five, and four, and three, and two, and one. And when you wake up on your eleventh birthday you expect to feel eleven, but you don’t. You open your eyes and everything’s just like yesterday, only it’s today. And
you don’t feel eleven at all. You feel like you’re still ten. And you are — underneath the year that makes you eleven.
Sandra Cisneros (via nogreatillusion)
Like some days you might say something stupid, and that’s the part of you that’s still ten. Or maybe some days you might need to sit on your mama’s lap because you’re scared, and that’s the part of you that’s five. And maybe one day when you’re all grown up maybe you will need to cry like if you’re three, and that’s okay. That’s what I tell Mama when she’s sad and
needs to cry. Maybe she’s feeling three.
Because the way you grow old is kind of like an onion or like the rings inside a tree trunk or like my little wooden dolls that fit one inside the other, each year inside the next one. That’s how being eleven years old is.”
“Do every stupid thing that makes you feel alive.
Do every stupid thing to try to drive the dark away.
Let people call you crazy for the choices that you make.
Find limits past the limits.
Jump in front of trains all day
and stay alive.
Just stay alive.”
- The Mountain Goats, 2012
“Back in July of 2011, Derek Williams (pictured gasping for air above) was struggling to breathe while in the back of a Milwaukee police vehicle and pleaded with cops to help him. But cops did noting to aide the man whom they arrested on suspicion of robbery. He died in the car minutes later. The Milwaukee Journal-Sentinel reports that it took ten months of negotiations and requests to secure the dashcam video of Williams’ final moments…”.* Ana Kasparian, Cenk Uygur, and Ben Mankiewicz break it down on The Young Turks.
*Read more here from NewsOne.com: http://newsone.com/2054318/derek-williams-dead-milwaukee-police/